Depression — A Phase of Life
What is Depression ?? Many people face depression especially during this lockdown period, we all have heard this multiple times. People have ended their lives due to Depression. But what exactly it is? Have anyone tried to figure out what made people go through Depression? Why at times we feel so lonely that we feel no one is with us.
Depression is something that kills you from within. A person feels so lonely that even if they are surrounded by a huge crowd they feel left out. In Depression, people try to get themselves isolated, don’t want to talk to anyone and just want to be all alone. Depression is more than just feeling sad. It’s a mental illness that people suffer more. It is most common in women as they are more emotional as compared to men.
Life will always be complicated, will never be smooth. At times, we feel happy because something is going to happen which will make us happy, we feel sad as something wrong has happened in our lives. The phases are temporary but when a person is in depression, the ups and downs of the moment to moment varies. In a moment, we feel happy and then in another moment, we feel sad. Kehte hai na ” Zindagi asaan nahi hoti , usse asaan banana padta hai “.
There are multiple reasons why people enter into depression. Some of them are — Financial crisis, love factor, no job, family issues. etc. But the one who copes up with this is a “True Hero”. I wanted people to know how I felt when a person is in depression. You feel like crying, don't want to talk to anyone, want to stay away from all the discussions which are going on around you, start taking pills for depression, also a person might start drinking or smoking. But will all these really help to be out of Depression?? The answer is a “BIG NO”. You yourself can be out of depression. No one can take you out of this.
But at this hardest time, you would come to know who are your closest person who is there for you standing beside you so that this phase of life will pass smoothly. The person who can be close to you, will be either your parents, your husband or out of a huge crowd of so-called friends — only a few are your real ones or I must say one or two friends who know you in and out.
We knew we need help but asking for it just made us feel like a burden and we don't know at that time whom to ask for as generally, people start ignoring us. This was a time where we can say — I wanted to be free of meds, doctors, counsellors, hospitals and negative thoughts. I felt as if I had lost myself and wouldn’t ever be the same again. There seems to be no motivation at that point in time and when anyone says “Cheer Up” these two words feel like I should kill that person. Believing in a person who says I am with you, I really love you was just next to impossible as for a person who is already surrounded by negative thoughts, it's just not possible to believe all such rubbish, fake promises.
But then in this process, there would always be a person who would be like an ” Angel “ to you with whom you can share everything which is going around your mind. I too got my Angel who held me, supported me at my worst time Rather I got two. Every time when I got low, I just made myself freak out and they gave me solutions for which I would always be thankful to them. I may not be able to thank them on their face for what they have done for me But deep inside my heart I am really obliged that you both are part of my life. I don’t want to lose my Angels.
I have learnt to change my thought processes and stop bullying myself, it’s a habit that’s been hard to break but I know I’ve made some positive changes. It's not like everything is ok. Depression still persists, but now I get to know, how to handle these. I have learnt to live life happily though, it's not always smooth which I have already mentioned. I was always told to show myself the same respect and concern that I would show for others.
“However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.”
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”